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Sunday, December 18, 2005

Mentors guide boys on life's path

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The 26 retired professional men who are school mentors for Washington DC Experience Corps walk a very elastic line in their relationship with young boys at risk.

The men -- all volunteers -- are at various times counselors, advisers, coaches, career guides, role models and friends. But under no circumstances does the organization want them to act as substitute fathers, even when the boys come from homes where fathers are not present or seldom appear.

"My daughter is 30 years old, and I could imagine how I would feel if somebody tried to step in as surrogate," says Ron Montague, 61, a retired air traffic controller who is mentoring for the second year at Webb Elementary School in Northeast.

Experience Corps also asks that the mentor and mentored child not be alone together, but no problems ever have developed in his experience, he says. Awareness is everything, he points out.

"It's a tricky road, especially in today's environment, and kids today are so smart. You can't get to play those electronic games by being dumb," Mr. Montague says. "Some of their energies may be channeled in the wrong direction, but they are smart on certain things. I remember when I was young, playing Mom and Dad against one another. Parents have to be aware this stuff goes on."

"Mentoring is not being a parent, because a parent is something different," says Andrew "Andy" Johnson, 66, a retired special agent with the U.S. Drug Enforcement Administration who has been with the program since 1999. "I like to start where the child is. I don't try to put my values on them, but hopefully from how I act and the things we talk about, they will know where I stand. Like your word is your bond, and being a leader instead of a follower. ... They will tell you anything once you have their trust."

One of the "smartest kids" he worked with, he says, talked about the habit of stealing cars. "At the end of the term he promised me he wouldn't steal any more cars. This was an 11- or 12-year-old kid. He now is in high school, and every time I see him I ask him about that. He says he is doing well, hoping to graduate from high school."

Mr. Montague is mentoring a different child this year but has kept in touch with his first charge, Timothy Miles, a student at Harris Junior High School who is one of six sons in a family headed by the mother. Anthonie Miles, 11, another of her sons, has been paired this year with mentor Bob Smith, formerly the owner of an auto repair shop.

"His father is not in his life, so it was good for him to have a male mentor," says his mother, Margaret Miles.

"It shocked me when I came here," Mr. Smith says. "I didn't expect to find a kid with so much enthusiasm and attention. He really wants to learn something."

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